In order to forgive you need to have been wronged. If events have no meaning, wrong exists only in your mind—it is a meaning you give to the other person’s behavior. No meaning, no wrong. No wrong, nothing to forgive.
(I’m sure that some readers will think of situations that must have inherent meaning. See two earlier blog posts that delve deeper into what I mean by events have no meaning and some of the implications of that fact. http://www.mortylefkoe.com/why-create-meaning/#, http://www.mortylefkoe.com/real-meaning/#)
By the way, just as you don’t
need to forgive others because they didn’t do anything “wrong,” so too you also don’t need to forgive yourself for
anything because you’ve never done anything that needs forgiveness.
Dissolve the meaning that seems to make forgiveness necessary and there will be
nothing left to forgive.
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