Being Autonomous

I`ve been reading and studying Transactional Analysis since discovering the work of Eric Berne was a major influence on the book ``Celestine Prophecy``.

TA assumes 3 ego states: theChild/theParent/theAdult.

In adulthood you live in the Adult stage(the NOW). In time of stress you may revert to either Child or Parent depending on your internal frame of reference and baggage you haven’t dealt with. This is always the PAST. If you disagree with someone and can both stay in theAdult state, no harm no foul. Getting a 3 page email or letter from someone “If only you...”, “you should ...”, “you never ...” are a pretty clear indication of theChild. Someone who says: “You ... “ and then roles their eyes is in theChild state. If you rationally discuss things you are in theAdult state. So be aware of how you react. When my Dad died one brother went into the Parent state, dictating to the other two, deciding when the money would be distributed. The othe two defencively went into Child. I stayed as Adult trying to act as mediator and peace maker.

To further complicate things you, subconsciously, created a role for yourself. thePersecutor/theRescuer/theVictim [PVR]. And people love to identify with games.Of course like attracts like so if Rescuer attracts Rescuer then one may slip into Persecutor making the other Victim or any number of other possibilities. The point is to realize it's a game and decide how you are willing to play. You can just walk away.[Sidenote: PVR are the airline initials for Puerto Vallarta, Mexico]

An alcoholic or Drug addict has built numerous roles into their game playing:
theAlcoholic (theVictim, the one who is "it"). And they draw thePersecutor, theRescuer, thePatsy ( or theDummy, maybe theAgitator ) and finally theConnection (theBartender or theLiquorStoreClerke.)
Of course they’re theVictim but they love to slide into thePersecutor role, making you theVictim.A funny one is “Let's You and Him Fight (LYAHF)”. A woman sets up a competition between two men to win her affections. Then, while Bert and Ernie are duking it out she takes off with a third male. All because of her belief that all honest competition is for suckers.

But wait there’s more.

You are the move you make
Take your chances win or loser
See yourself You are the steps you take
You and you - and that's the only way
Shake - shake yourself
You're every move you make
So the story goesYou have aLifeScript (aPersonalLifePlan) based on family/social/cultural/religious influences which were completed by the age of seven.
Some people think that they will never meet anybody (a script decision about being alone). But basically scripts come in 3 flavours (theWinner/theLoser/theBanal).
A winner's script allows for the person who designed it to get what he or she wants in the end (Being happily married in a loving relationshsip)
Loser scripts are those that end up with the person who lives them getting what they want. (Having it, losing it, things falling to pieces).
A banal script is one which is built on mediocrity, nothing much is gained and nothing much lost. (Working hard but never getting anywhere).Owner of a lonely heart
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Owner of a lonely heartA script, it is still a pattern of thinking and behaving in the world which restricts some of your options. The ideal, therefore, is to become script free, or be able to apply the strengths in your script consciously. You made decisions based on limited information. Your dad drank not because of you or that but because his situation, his beliefs, his frame of reference which were drawn from his child experiences.Say - you don't want to chance it You've been hurt so before
Watch it now
The eagle in the sky
How he dancin' one and only
You - lose yourself
No not for pity's sake
There's no real reason to be lonely
Be yourself
Give your free will a chance
You've got to want to succeedBeing script-free is being autonomous(behaving, thinking or feeling in direct response to here and now reality rather than reacting to things based on a script belief). Autonomy is manifested by the release or recovery of three capacities: awareness, spontaneity and intimacy.Owner of a lonely heart
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Owner of a lonely heartAnd of course, once you know what your unconscious life plan is you can change it. You decided on it as a child, but you can now change your mind as an adult. Remember that whatever you decided about yourself and your life as a child, it was done from a very limited perspective. What seemed a generalized truth about life then might not be true for you anymore today.After my own decision
They confused me so
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My love said never question your will at all
In the end you've got to go
Look before you leapEsotericism and New Age beliefs are part of the draw to the “Celestine Prophecy”. I liked it. It helped me deal with my mom dying. But it’s only a fictional story. You tend to be drawn to certain books/people/places because of your script and your longing for that perfect world/person/home. A winner's script allows for the person who designed it to get what he or she wants in the end (like in the story of Odysseus, who does find his way back home). In much the same way stories of Utopia or Heaven would have influenced your script (either winner, loser or banal).Owner of a lonely heart
And don't you hesitate at all - no no
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Sooner or later each conclusion
Will decide the lonely heartWhat does it have to do with New Thought. Nothing.
That isn’t the legacy that Fillmore, Cady, Cramer, Brooks, Holmes, Fox, Murphy, Butterworth and others left in their books.
Christian Science, Unity, Divine Science and Religious Science have their roots entrenched in those books. It was never Quimby’s intention to start a religion.

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It will excite it will delight
It will give a better start
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Don't deceive your free will at all
Don't deceive your free will at all
Owner of a lonely heartChange your mind, change your life.You can change your beliefs, you can change your script.
Whether it’s using NLP, Core Transformation, the Work, Hypnotherapy or what-have-you.Don't deceive your free will at all
Just receive it