There is no reality except the one contained within us.

When you’re one with God, then you also tend to see the God in other people, whether they are treating you like a Daddy, a Mommy, a son, or like a mosquito! Connirae Andreas

Virginia Satir was an American author and social worker, known especially for her approach to family therapy and her work with family reconstruction.

Her most well-known books are Conjoint Family Therapy, 1964, Peoplemaking, 1972, and The New Peoplemaking, 1988.

The Secret Place of Peace

Guy Finley: Within each of us, in our hearts and in our minds, there lives a special kind of light. In truth, it is... [continued]

God is the strength of my Life. Of whom then shall I be afraid?” ECH

Not Good Enough

Is it ever true that you aren’t good enough?

Good enough for what?

Boy, this entire blog seems just chock full of serendipity.

This morning, instead of thinking of doing something, instead of thinking of action, think of not doing something, think of ceasing to perform certain actions that you presently perform.

Everyone is God speaking

Listening Quotes - Praying Quotes « LOVE LETTERS FROM GOD

Grace Bell~ Listening To God

Virginia Satir Family Relations

We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us.

Forgiveness and hate

Virginia Satir Forgiving Parents Family Therapy

How loving were your parents? How loving were their parents?

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“Hate erodes you. Hate starts eating on you. And it eats and eats. And the more you hate you want to kill the object of the hate. Once you categorize or stereotype something, like a prejudicial slur, then that has to be the focus of hate.” ~ Virginia Satir

I am me

In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me
Everything that comes out of me is authentically me
Because I alone chose it – I own everything about me
My body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
Whether they be to others or to myself – I own my fantasies,
My dreams, my hopes, my fears – I own all my triumphs and
Successes, all my failures and mistakes Because I own all of
Me, I can become intimately acquainted with me – by so doing
I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts – I know
There are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other
Aspects that I do not know – but as long as I am
Friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously
And hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles
And for ways to find out more about me – However I
Look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever
I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically
Me – If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought
And felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is
Unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that
Which I discarded – I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do
I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be
Productive to make sense and order out of the world of
People and things outside of me – I own me, and
therefore I can engineer me – I am me and
I AM OKAY

by Virginia Satir

Moving past your past.

“I also came to understand that our authenticity (or lack thereof) is made evident by the fruit that our life is bearing.” ―  Christine Caine, Stop Acting Like A Christian, Just Be One

Christine Caine, is an Australian pastor, activist, evangelist, and globe trotting speaker. Christine is best known for founding the A21 Campaign which was orchestrated to fight modern day human trafficking in 2008 as well as Equip and Empower Ministries which is an organization that aims to advise and grow christian churches and church leaders.

I am affected only by my thoughts. ACIM Lesson 338

16 “. . . But we have the mind of Christ.” 1 Corinthians 2:16 (NIV)

 So many of us either are not aware of what we truly desire, or believe we do not deserve to make what we truly desire front and center in our lives. Even if you are not yet ready to take the inspired action of your desires, allow them to come to fruition in your awareness. The more comfortable you are with the desires of your heart the easier it will become to live as your authentic self.

"And the truth shall bear witness of itself."

And one day the eyes of your spirit shall open, and you shall know all things.

For the Son of Man is not all that he seems, and only with the eyes of the spirit can we see those golden threads which link us with all life everywhere.
The truth is born out of the spring of Light, falsehood from the well of darkness.
The Essene Gospel of Peace

To all those who perceive that peace for the whole depends upon the effort of the individual.

Awareness belittles What IS by ignorance.
~ Kenneth G. Mills 2003

Positive Intentions

The term positive is generally used to mean "desirable" or "beneficial", and negative is generally used to mean "undesirable" or "bad". However, in neuro-linguistic programming they have a specific meanings in the phrases positive intent and stated in the positive, and negative intent and stated in the negative.

In this sense, the term is used to mean linguistically stated in the affirmatory. In other words, a goal or intent is said to be positively stated if it is stated by reference to a state or thing one desires, and it is said to be negatively stated by reference to a state or thing one wishes to avoid.
Virginia Satir originated a slightly different meaning of the phrase positive intention. She believed that digging deeply into a client's dysfunctional or damaging behaviour should find that the client is trying to achieve a positive intent through undesirable behaviour, unconsciously ineptly and harmfully, and that the dysfunction could often be helped by finding other ways to honor that positive intention.

In a similar vein, psychiatrist R. D. Laing[1] had argued that the symptoms of what is normally called mental illness are comprehensible reactions to impossible demands that society and family life place on sensitive individuals.

The following statements are all positive intent or stated in the positive, regardless of whether they are beneficial or damaging wishes:
Stated in the positive
• I want a car with a 6 litre engine.
• I'm hoping to retire in 5 years.
• I'd like to steal/harm/take something or someone (stated in the positive in the technical linguistic and NLP senses, and would constitute a "positive intention", though negative in an everyday sense).

The significance of this comes from the psychological phenomenon claimed by some, that the mind does not always process neuro-linguistically negatives well. For example, when one focuses on what he or she does not want, the mind may, at some level, imagine the object to be avoided more than the relational word "not.

A person's intention in performing an action is his or her specific purpose in doing so, the end or goal at which he or she aims or intends to accomplish. Whether an action is successful or unsuccessful depends at least on whether the intended result was brought about. The aphorism in NLP is that all human action fulfils a positive intent at some level. Often, the intent, if explored, will be quite surprising and revealing, and suggest new directions of thought, especially to people who habitually think in terms of negative intention.
For example:
• I don't want to take that job
Possible positive intention: I want to be able to relax
Possible effect: the client may come to see that the job need not in fact be in conflict with relaxation, or may explore ways to remain calm at work. Otherwise, if the job be detrimental, the client should consider a different career or other forms of relaxation outside work.
For these reasons, in NLP it is generally seen as more beneficial to focus on the opportunities a person has, other than those he or she wants to be gone.


[1] Ronald David Laing (1927 –1989) was a Scottish psychiatrist who wrote extensively on mental illness – in particular, the experience of psychosis. Laing's views on the causes and treatment of serious mental dysfunction, greatly influenced by existential philosophy, ran counter to the psychiatric orthodoxy of the day by taking the expressed feelings of the individual patient or client as valid descriptions of lived experience rather than simply as symptoms of some separate or underlying disorder.