Speaking ill of others is not conscious.

"Your hand opens and closes, opens and closes. If it were always a fist or always stretched open, you would be paralyzed. Your deepest presence is in every small contracting and expanding, the two as beautifully balanced and coordinated as birds' wings." Jelaluddin Rumi

When we judge others, the meaning we’re usually giving their behavior is that their behavior is wrong and that they are wrong for acting that way, which almost always diminishes the other person. It keeps us from making the contribution we really to want to make to others.

The importance of being conscious before speaking or acting

"There is a community of the spirit.

Join it, and feel the delight

of walking in the noisy street

and being the noise.

Drink all your passion,

and be a disgrace.

Close both eyes

to see with the other eye.

Open your hands,

if you want to be held."

Rumi

When you determine to control yourself, understand that it is God’s control and you will rise in joy and wisdom. This is your life fiat: “Let Divine Wisdom now be demonstrated by the per­fect judgment with which I administer upon affairs.” Emma Curtis Hopkins